incogneato
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Me and my mom have a complicated relationship but overall, especially in this time of my life… if God is going to take anyone… I would rather he take me.
Now I know that’s overall selfish, as me going before my mother would cause way too much pain. But I physically cannot live without my mother. I emotionally cannot, and I will genuinely feel as if I’ll have no one to live for. Especially in this moment of my life, where I need my mother. Physically + emotionally.
She isn’t in the best health, she always seems to have something medically wrong with her, and I’m fearing one day, it will be something that cannot be fixed/something life threatening.
How do I stop fearing over this?
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Create a fulfilling life for yourself and cultivate a healthy community you can lean on if the time comes to grieve your mum's passing. I feel the same way regarding my parents. I have never felt such a deep love for people and it's painful imagining a life without them. But the best way to honor loved ones who have passed/will eventually pass is by living a happy and healthy life <3
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Do you have your own family?
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incogneato said:
Me and my mom have a complicated relationship but overall, especially in this time of my life… if God is going to take anyone… I would rather he take me.
Now I know that’s overall selfish, as me going before my mother would cause way too much pain. But I physically cannot live without my mother. I emotionally cannot, and I will genuinely feel as if I’ll have no one to live for. Especially in this moment of my life, where I need my mother. Physically + emotionally.
She isn’t in the best health, she always seems to have something medically wrong with her, and I’m fearing one day, it will be something that cannot be fixed/something life threatening.How do I stop fearing over this?
I felt that way. I had to deal with it when her “time came”. It is a part of life. Im still here, thriving and surviving though, somehow.
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I’ve lived with this mentality since I was a kid, losing my mom is/was my worst fear .. I would even remind my mom often how I hoped to go before her.
Life doesn’t go as we always plan though. I lost her 5 months ago, and I don’t even know who I am anymore..
ShirlBabyGrl
This is a forum. Not a fight. Seek therapy.
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I've been there. Prayed to God to go first. It did not happen that way. When I lost my mom, I lost a piece of me. I had to slowly find a way to rebuild and thrive. Anyone who truly loves you will want you to continue living, loving and laughing. Not sad and depressed. But honestly, enjoy your time and don't worry about the future. It'll always be there. Live in the present and make memories you can always cherish.
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Saintjoo said:
I’ve lived with this mentality since I was a kid, losing my mom is/was my worst fear .. I would even remind my mom often how I hoped to go before her.
Life doesn’t go as we always plan though. I lost her 5 months ago, and I don’t even know who I am anymore..
I'm sorry you're going through this. I understand completely. Sending you virtual hugs. <3
It'll take time, but you'll get there. Losing your mom is like losing your ******. Your anchor. Be gentle with yourself during this time. Give yourself grace to mourn. The deeper you love someone, the harder you'll grieve. Just take your time and get through each moment.
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incogneato said:
Me and my mom have a complicated relationship but overall, especially in this time of my life… if God is going to take anyone… I would rather he take me.
Now I know that’s overall selfish, as me going before my mother would cause way too much pain. But I physically cannot live without my mother. I emotionally cannot, and I will genuinely feel as if I’ll have no one to live for. Especially in this moment of my life, where I need my mother. Physically + emotionally.
She isn’t in the best health, she always seems to have something medically wrong with her, and I’m fearing one day, it will be something that cannot be fixed/something life threatening.How do I stop fearing over this?
How old are you?
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Start putting yourself first now.
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